It’s official. Becoming a mum doesn’t mean you have to say goodbye to a social life. In fact, your baby may be your ticket to lots of new friendships
One little mentioned benefit of new motherhood? It’s a great opportunity to expand your social circle.
Whether that’s making new friends or engaging with your current mates in a new way, there are super simple ways to connect.
Pencil in daytime activities with your friends to get you out of the house and spending time with other adults
1. Arrange playdates
Playdates for your baby are really more for you at this stage, giving you a chance to have a catch up with a fellow mum while your tots play. Try and organise at least two a month – and mix up the venues to keep it fresh.
2. Have day dates
As a new mum, you probably won’t have a huge amount of energy for late nights in crowded bars. Instead, pencil in daytime activities with your friends to get you out of the house and spending time with other adults. Unless someone’s on hand to babysit, opt for activities that your baby can join in with, such as a walk in the park or lunch in a baby-friendly restaurant.
3. Take a night off
While you’ll find it hard to tear yourself away from your baby, having a night off once in a while will do wonders for you and your social life. Enlist the babysitting services of a family member or friend and head off out for a night with friends, old or new.
It doesn’t have to be alcohol-fuelled – keep an eye out for new films, theatre performances or interesting evening talks that you could go along to with friends.
4. Stay connected
If you’re the first of your friends to have a baby, keeping in touch with women from your antenatal classes is the ideal way to have some mum friends in your life. You’ll be able to compare what you’re going through – and indulge in a gossip.
5. Join baby groups
Get out and about with your baby by attending weekly baby groups. Lots of libraries hold free weekly storytelling sessions for mums and kids. Swimming or baby yoga classes are also great ways to amuse your baby and meet lots of other mums.
Ask your midwife about baby groups in your area and share the ones you attend below.
6. Keep your old friends
Whether you’re the first of your friends to have a baby or not, do maintain your friendships to keep your sense of identity. Some may naturally fade after a while but your good friends will still want to hang out with you and play auntie to your new addition.
Aim to spend an equal amount of your time with and without your baby, so your friends have a chance to gel with your baby but still have your undivided attention sometimes.
7. Get chatty
Be confident to strike up a conversation with other mums and be open about your experiences of motherhood – it will make other mums feel comfortable opening up to you. Who knows, the baby aisle of Sainsburys could be your new socialising hub.
8. Be available (when possible)
Of course you won’t be able to meet up with a friend at the drop of the hat anymore, but when you do have a night off make the most of it.
As tempting as it is to sink into a hot bath for the evening, instead have a quick shower, spruce yourself up a little and head out to meet friends – you’ll feel better for it.
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How did you make new mum friends? Share your tips below.