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‘Parents Shouldn’t Hide Conflict From Children’, Actress Laura Dern Says

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Hollywood star and mother-of-two Laura Dern, 47, believes it’s wrong to conceal arguments from children – no matter how heated.

In a recent interview with The Telegraph's Stella Magazine, the actress said: ‘I don’t think kids expect the fairytale anymore, either. Most couples don’t hide that they fight from their children, whereas in our parents’ generation you hid everything.

‘A therapist would now tell you that it’s good to fight in front of them as long as they can see the resolution.

‘This is being human – you get angry, you get hurt, you yell and say things you don’t mean – and then you circle back and you’re accountable. ‘Otherwise kids hit adulthood and they don’t know how to deal with conflict.’

The Blue Velvet actress’s own parents – famous actors Bruce Dern and Diane Ladd – split up when she was just two and Dern herself split from the father of her children, Ben Harper, last year.

She believes her children - Ellery, 12, and Jaya, nine - are 'doing great' following the divorce and their living situation is not much different.

‘Their father is a touring musician so they were used to the comings and goings a bit... But, like me, they never really knew a mom and dad sitting down at the table for dinner every night. So I think that creates an easier transition.’

Do you fight openly in front of your children? Let us know below.

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