Month five of your pregnancy...in which you might see some precious private parts.
Have you ever been so impatient for something that you said ‘urgh, it’s like waiting for Christmas’? Yeah, well, Christmas seems to come around pretty darn quickly compared to your 20 week scan doesn’t it?
What is it with the way time passes so slowly during pregnancy? You’ve been waiting and wishing and dreaming for the day to come for so long, it’s been like dragging yourself through treacle towards that dot on your calendar.
But finally, it’s month five and that much longed for day will arrive. So to find out or not to find out?
Should I find out what sex my baby is?
We’ve all heard the stories about girls and boys bits and bobs being obvious on scans (really?) about sonographers slipping up and letting the pink or blue balloon float on out of the bag.
Oh and then there’s the husbands who think they’ve figured out….’I know the sex, I think I saw….some ovaries.’ OVARIES!! Most of us can’t even work out where the head is.
Whatever you decide, that scan day is up there with some of the most exciting days of your entire life. Even if you’re not finding out, it feels like a long time since you saw your little jelly baby at 12 weeks and you’re desperate for another glimpse.
Oh but the gap in emotions between you and the sonographers is an ocean. A cold, still ocean, often on their part.
OK, so they’re just doing their job, they’re taking lots of complicated measurements of something that is in the dark, inside you and they can only see in fuzzy black and white.
But their silence is annoying when you’re looking for smiles and reassurance and want to scream ‘Tell me something nice about my baby!!’. This is all normal and they will tell you everything, they just take their own sweet time about it!
Crazy pregnancy dreams
If you weren’t so excited you could have a little kip in that cool, dark scan room couldn’t you? Because you must be shattered after all that dreaming.
Right now you’re like the BFG (oh, no, sorry, nothing to do with your larger appearance) and more about the crazy dreams you’re surrounded by (put your feet up and watch the movie if this means nothing to you!).
Pregnancy dreams are a thing. Pregnancy dreams are so vivid that Steven Spielberg could only wish he’d directed something so full of fear and emotion. These nightmares basically seem to offer up all your worries and fears for your viewing pleasure. They are really common and won’t last forever.
Your baby’s first kicks
If you’re lucky you’re precious cargo might have started kicking by now.
This happens at different stages for every woman, but the first tiny movements can usually be felt between 16 and 25 weeks.
The first flutters are tricky to work out but there can be no doubt that when you feel your little fish flipping about you know you would put up with a lifetime of nightmares just to know she is happy.
Even later on when she’s kicking down on your bits from the inside and you yelp and nearly fall to your knees in the street, you’re still ridiculously thrilled that she’s saying hi.
Strange pregnancy pains
At some point you might find yourself Googling (stop doing that though!) about ‘stabbing pains’ here and there.
You’re probably experiencing the joy of round ligament pain around now, although it can start much earlier. It often makes you wince if you stand up too quickly from a chair or bed and it bloody hurts.
You can feel it in the lower belly or groin area and it’s basically the muscle that connects your womb to your groin, so it’s under a lot of pressure right now (yeah, we know, join the club).
Pregnant women should be given a list of all the weird and wonderful pains likely to be experienced over the next nine months so they can be ticked off as you go - because Dr Google is not the answer, Dr Google can make you feel worse.
If you are truly worried about anything you can absolutely call your REAL doctor or midwife. You are pregnant, you are special, you are allowed to ask a million questions and have your mind put at rest whenever you need to, so just get anything you’re worried about checked out. That’s what the pros are there for so give your head a rest.
Your little one is busy growing and so are you….wait, what is that, is that a...stretchmark? They’re called Tiger Stripes these days by the way.
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