Relax, breathe and work through the smart mum’s guide to getting baby-ready during your second trimester
1 Avoid info overload
Immersing yourself in pregnancy books and websites is fun, but be wary of information overload. ‘Many women feel pressure to be the “perfect mother”,’ says Dr Bijlani. ‘You will be a unique parent, so just get the information you need.’
'You will be a unique parent, so just get the information you need'
2 Stay calm
Avoid getting worked up, as stress hormones travel through the placenta to the baby. Make your midwife your new BFF. ‘They have a wealth of common sense advice,’ Dr Bijlani advises.
3 Spend time together
Pregnancy hormones can make you feel less sexual. ‘Make sure you have time with your partner physically,’ says Emma. ‘If you don’t feel like sex, cuddle instead.’ Even if you don’t experience the much-hyped increased libido, you may find yourself feeling closer to your partner, so make the most of this time.
4 Make a shopping list
Retail therapy can now begin (whoop!). ‘Start looking for buggies – there’s a vast array, so finding “the one” can take a while,’ says Nicki. How will you use it: on pavements; country roads; public transport? Will it fit in your car boot/through your door? ‘The best pushchair is one that is suitable from birth to toddlerhood and beyond,’ says Tess. You can also get essential equipment, such as the car seat, plus a few basic clothes. And stock up on muslins – you’ll need lots.
'The best pushchair is one that is suitable from birth to toddlerhood and beyond'
5 Think through your work strategy
Try to get the timing of your announcement right – don’t do it until you’re ready, but don’t leave it until you have a beach-ball bump, otherwise you risk breaching the trust of your colleagues. ‘Tell them that you’re focused on making things work before you go on maternity leave and afterwards, too,’ says Caroline.