Close Close
Mother and Baby

How much sex do you really need to have if you're trying for a baby?

How much sex do you really need to have if you're trying for a baby?

So you’ve ditched the contraception, you’ve taken your folic acid in preparation, and you’re ready to get pregnant. Surely just a couple of passionate baby-making nights with your partner and you’ll strike baby gold?

Sadly, it’s often not that simple, and for many couples it can take up to 12 months to conceive, so try not to worry if you’re three months in with no baby bump yet.

With a little luck, a little timing, and a whole lot of fun - you’ll soon be seeing a positive on that pregnancy test.

How much sex should I have to get pregnant?

Honestly? As much as possible! I know, I know, it’s often the last thing on your mind at the end of a long day, but when it comes to trying for a baby, more fun time = more chances of a double line.

We all know those early relationship days, you know, when sex is top of the agenda and you can’t keep your hands off each other? Then the months go by, daily life kicks in, you move in together and things slow down a little.

When it comes to sex, every couple is different; some have sex once or twice a week, others once or twice a month. There’s no such thing as ‘normal’ in a relationship, but when it comes to trying for a baby - you have to seriously up your game.

On average, it takes most couples (about 84 out of every 100) up to 12 months to get pregnant if they have regular sex, don’t use contraception and don’t have any underlying fertility issues so don’t worry if your cheeky baby-making weekend away didn’t result in a baby the first time.

When should I have sex?

While you’re most likely to get pregnant if you have sex within a day or so of ovulation (around 14 days after the first day of your last period), it’s important to have sex as often as possible as this boosts your chances of becoming pregnant.

Sometimes, just focusing on ovulation days can make it all much more stressful and put you both under enormous pressure. Instead, it’s more much more effective (and fun) to have it wherever and whenever, so ditch the charts, and reconnect.

Stop focusing on making a baby and instead, get back to the fun part of sex

I’m having loads of sex on my ovulation days, but I’m still not pregnant

So you’ve been at it like rabbits around ovulation day and you still have no positives on the pregnancy test? Don’t stress!

Making a baby is not as simple as it seems. Sure, we all know about the birds and bees, but mama nature sometimes needs a little help. Your body is complex and incredibly clever, but there’s lot’s of luck and timing involved, which is why having sex more frequently, rather than just around ovulation, increases your chances of becoming pregnant.

After ovulation, the egg only lives for 24 hours and a sperm must meet the egg within that period for pregnancy to happen.

But having sex just on those days, won’t necessarily guarantee a baby. It’s much better to have regular sex in the run up to ovulation, because sperm can survive in the fallopian tubes for several days afterwards and still fertilise the egg when it's released from the ovary. 

So get planning a sperm greeting party for your egg when it’s about to be released in the fallopian tubes, and you’ll up your chances of a positive on that pregnancy test.

I’ve been trying for over 12 months - should I worry?

Many couples can take up to and over 12 months trying to conceive, so try not to worry.

It’s always worth going to your GP if after 12 months of actively trying for a baby, nothing has happened. Your GP will be able to give you advice and run some simple tests.

Related content:


No comments have been made yet.

Chinese Gender predictor
Chinese Gender Predictor

Is it a boy or a girl? Tell our tool the month you concieved and how old you are and find out! 

Nappy rash is painful for parents as well as for your baby
Nappy rash is painful for parents as well as for your baby

Read Dr Pixie's guide to learn how to deal with nappy rash

The Magic Sleepsuit
The secret to a quiet night’s sleep – The Magic Sleepsuit

If you’re little one is struggling to settle now they’ve outgrown the swaddling stage, this could be the answer to your sleep-deprived prayers!

Celebrating parenting's small wins
Celebrating parenting's small wins

As mums, we're constantly told to enjoy every moment; in reality, parenting can sometimes be challenging. That's where small wins come in...

Subscribe to Mother&Baby

Be the best mum you can be and let Mother & Baby guide you along the way. Each issue is jam packed with REAL advice from mums just like you. Subscribe today & get a free welcome gift!

Ovulation Calculator
Ovulation calculator
Trying for a baby? Work out when you're most fertile to increase your chances of getting pregnant with our easy-to-use ovulation calculator.
Pregnant woman
Due Date Calculator

When is your baby due? If you’re having trouble remembering dates and counting up the days on your fingers and toes, don’t worry – use our due date calculator.

Get M&B in your inbox!

Sign up to Mother&Baby today and get news and advice about your body and your baby straight to your inbox every week. 

Lemonade Money
It’s time to make sure your loved ones are protected

Every parent knows the importance of planning ahead; from the new school shoes, to your little one’s education, you want to fill their future with hopes and dreams. Yet are you one of the 80% of adults here in the UK that has no life cover?