Potty training tips: How to potty train your toddler

Potty training your toddler can be a milestone that’s as eagerly anticipated and it is dreaded! So turn potluck into a lucky streak with our expert potty training tips that show you the best way to potty train…

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We chatted to toilet training expert and mum of three, Amanda Jenner to ask her some of your most asked potty training questions, from how long it should take to the games that will hopefully make potty training a fun experience for your little one. 

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Is my child ready for potty training?

We’ve all done it. Your friend tells you 20-month-old Oscar is “dry all day” and you go into a spin of self-doubt and criticism that your child isn’t at the same level. “Every child is an individual and every child will potty train differently so don’t beat yourself up,” says Amanda.

Look for these four signs that you child is ready to pee and poop in the potty:

  1. “When you see them stop in their tracks when they are playing, or go away and hide each time they do a wee or poo in their nappy,” says Amanda. “This means they are aware and acknowledging that something is happening.”
  2. The gap between wetting and soiling their nappy is at least an hour.
  3. They have the physical ability to sit on a potty and get up from it.
  4. They respond to, and follow simple verbal commands. “Some children will pull off their nappies and demand to be changed when they are wet,” says Amanda. “This is a good sign that they want to be out of those nappies!”

What age should my toddler start potty training?

Generally speaking, children aren't ready to start using a potty until they are between 18 months and three years old, though everyone is different. Boys tend to take a little longer than girls to ditch the nappies. 


How long does potty training take?

With more than 500 toilet training successes under her belt, ‘toilet whisperer’ Amanda has honed her technique down to three days, but she says you have to realistic about what you can achieve.

“While I might be able to sit with the child all day and help them train, most parents won’t be able to do this as they have lots of other commitments. Understand that your child is learning a new skill, and that you are learning too and this can take time,” says Amanda. “Toilet training takes from a few weeks to a month on average to master but all children are different. Boys tend to be ever so slightly slower than girls and if your child has toilet-trained siblings they may be quicker.”

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How to potty train: top toilet training tips

Learning how to use the loo is a complex skill set for a little one to grasp. He must learn what poos and wees are, how to recognise when one’s on its way, how to pull his pants down – and back up – and what the loo roll is for and how to wash his hands. And that’s without the tricky business of actually doing his business.

Teach your toddler all these other skills before removing his nappy and suddenly potty-training is a whole lot simpler. You can start this countdown from the age of 18 months…

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What happens if they have an accident?

It’s easy to get frustrated if your child has an accident but you have to try and keep calm and upbeat (even if you don’t feel it). “You wouldn’t be normal if you didn’t get upset when they stand in front of you and poo!” says Amanda. “But rather than say ‘don’t worry, it’s okay’ be firm and say ‘that’s not where the poo goes is it, that’s not right”. Pick up the poo in their pants, pop it in the potty and take it to the toilet so they can see where is should go. It’s much better to say this is right and this is wrong than ‘never mind’. Give them lots of praise and attention when they do get it right.”

The less anxious you are about the whole situation the better. “If you show your child you are worried or cross they will feel like there are doing something bad. Be consistent, patient and calm,” says Amanda. “And above all, make sure everyone who looks after your child i.e. nursery teachers, childminders, grandmas, are informed about how you are potty training them and what you expect. Communication is key.”

How do I start night time training?

Never start nighttime training when your child is potty training in the day. They should be fully toilet trained in the day for at least one month before you consider bedtime training, and have several nights in a row of dry nappies. “If they are still having three to four accidents a day, they’re not trained,” says Amanda. “It’s all about their bladder being capable of holding on to fluids for longer periods – and it pays to wait. Getting up at 3am is a massive upheaval for the whole family and everyone is likely to get upset, setting your toilet training back.”

Ensure you buy some nighttime kit such as a mattress protector, so if there are any accidents it’s not so difficult to clean up. Put a potty in their room at first as they may not be able to get to the loo in time, and buy a night light so they feel happy getting up in the night. “And ensure there’s no milk before bed!” adds Amanda. “Avoid drinks 30-40 minutes before bed, and this includes fruit and fruit juices. They are still young and their bladder cannot hold as much as an adult’s overnight.”


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8 steps for potty training success: 

  1. Relax: Your child might be physically and mentally ready, but you need to feel ready too! 
  2. Remember accidents will happen: Your child is trying to reach two physical milestones when potty training - learning how to open and close their bladder, plus learning how to use it as a muscle to hold in wee. As your child practises holding on, he'll often have a big accident because he's holding on to a lot of wee. Despite seeming like a step back, this is a good thing!
  3. Keep giving reminders: Remember to keep asking your child if he needs a wee every 20 minutes or so. 
  4. Be patient: It's important to teach your little girl to wipe herself from front to back after a wee, but don't expect your little one to be able to wipe their bottom - they won't have the dexterity to do that until they are around four. 
  5. Try and see the funny side: Be prepared, you'll probably find a poo behind the sofa or under the bed at some point! 
  6. Remember potty training is easier at home: If your child goes to nursery, you might find they have more accidents there than they do at home - this is normal. When a child feels confident at home is often different to when they feel confident out of the home. Stick to your routine and try and get support where you can. 
  7. Give positive attention: It's common for potty-trained children to have accidents again when a baby sibling comes along as a way of getting attention. Other situations that contain a degree of stress, such as moving house or divorce can aslo cause accidents. Try and ignore them and give positive attention when your child is being helpful. 
  8. Nighttime nappies: Remember until your little one is reliably dry in the daytime, leave the nappy on during the night.

Potty training games to play with your toddler

If you build positive associations with the potty before you even start, by having lots of fun and giving him loads of your attention, your toddler will start the potty-training process wanting to take his nappy off.

Play these games with your little one before starting potty training.

What are the best potty training books?

We've rounded up the best potty training books for boys and girls, that will hopefully get your toddler out of nappies, onto the potty and eventually towards the toilet. Check out our potty training books guide, here.


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