Mother and Baby

10 Pieces Of Mum Advice You Can Ignore (And One You Should Follow)

As soon as you have a baby, it can seem like the whole world is desperate to impart their wisdom on the best ways to bring him up. So whether it’s your mum, best friend or mother-in-law who’s doling out the advice, there are times when it’s fine to smile knowingly and totally ignore it.


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Keep to a strict schedule

For the first couple of months, your baby will feed on demand, so don’t beat yourself up if your Gina Ford book is gathering dust in a corner. Lots of mums worry about keeping on schedule, but if you let yourself be led by your baby, you can set up a routine when you feel more settled into motherhood.
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Trim your baby’s nails while asleep

It takes long enough to get her off to sleep so the prospect of trying to hang over her cot trying to cut her nails without waking her up does not appeal. Instead, try distracting your baby with a toy so you can trim the nails – you could do one hand on one day and the other hand the next.
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Yes, babies have delicate constitutions and you need to be aware of bugs and germs, but getting all ‘Monica’ on your house will end up taking ages out of your day and leaving you exhausted. Plus, new research has found there’s a crucial ‘developmental window’ in the first two weeks of your baby’s life when exposing him to normal bacteria can reduce the risk of developing asthma and other allergies. The Royal College of Midwives have advised that mums use soap and water over antibacterial products.
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No screen time before the age of two

Now we don’t advocate plonking your toddler down in front of the TV for hours at a time, but there is definitely a time and a place for giving your little one some screen time. A clever app on your phone or some mum-baby bonding time while sitting down together to watch Peppa Pig can be rewarding for your baby (even if Peppa drives you mental).
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Babies need daily baths

While a bath can form a useful part of your baby’s routine, if you find it’s already his bedtime and he’s not had one, then don’t worry. Simply top and tail your baby so he’s clean and you can give him a bath the next day.
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Babies who are learning to walk need shoes

Don’t rush into buying your baby’s first shoes as soon he’s cruising round the living room. When your baby is walking indoors, bare feet allow him to grip the floor and develop steadiness. Instead, wait until he’s secure and confident on his feet before buying sturdy shoes – you can stick with soft-soled pram shoes until then.
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Baby teeth = stop breastfeeding

While the average age for your baby’s first tooth to appear is around six or seven months, it’s quite possible that one could appear before then (some babies are even born with a tooth). And if that does happen, we wouldn’t want that to put you off breastfeeding. If you want to continue breastfeeding, whatever your baby's age, that’s your decision and don’t worry about it hurting – if your baby is latched on correctly, he can’t bite.
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Don’t feel guilty…

This is easier said than done. Guilt – whether it’s about going back to work or how you bring up your baby – will always exist in a mum’s life. The trick is to accept that you’re feeling guilty and then try and look beyond that at why you’re feeling this way. This will help you remember that while guilt will always exist, it’s there because you care about your baby.
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Buy everything before your baby arrives

It’s very easy to max out your credit card buying every single baby item before your little one has even arrived. But in reality, there are only a few baby essentials that you have to invest in at first, while some can be inherited from friends and family or picked up second hand from charity shops.
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Let her cry/Don’t let her cry

You’ll hear 101 experts say both of the above phrases, which not surprisingly leaves many mums feeling totally confused. So ignore what other people are telling you to do about your crying baby, and do what feels right for you.
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And the advice you should go with? Follow your instincts

In the end, you know deep down what advice you want to follow and what to ignore, so go with your gut and you'll do fine.

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