Struggling to help your toddler accept his baby sister? You’re not alone. It’s extremely common for a child to become jealous when there’s a new addition to the family – especially when that new addition is a baby that takes up all of her parents' time. Not to mention all of the presents she gets from friends and relatives.
There are lots of ways that this jealousy can show itself. ‘Just like there’s no such thing as a ‘normal child’, there’s no ‘normal behaviour’,’ says child psychologist Dr Amanda Gummer. ‘It’s common for children to become clingier to the mother, but also reject the mother and transfer affections to another role model.’
It’s extremely common for a child to become jealous when there’s a new addition to the family.
Some toddlers enjoy playing the role of big brother and suddenly seem to grow up, but others find it hard to understand why they have to share their parents.
‘Some children regress and want babying a bit more, especially if they think that it will get them more attention,’ explains Dr Gummer.
So, how do you cope with your toddler’s jealous behaviour on top of your new baby duties?
4 ways to help your toddlers jealousy:
1) Be aware of your toddlers' behaviour
We know newborns require a lot of attention, but it’s important that you keep an eye on your toddler at all times. His actions will show how he feels
as at this age he’ll find it hard to communicate through words.
‘Taking your baby’s dummy or toys is common as is crying about things that he’d not normally have bothered about,’ says Dr Gummer. ‘In fact, attention seeking behaviour in general is quite common.’
3) Set aside special time with your toddler
As essential as it is to include your little one, you also need that all-important one-on-one time with him – just like you used to have constantly before your baby arrived.
‘Often, it’s best to plan this for when the baby is asleep or when there is someone else to look after the baby whilst you have quality time with your toddler,’ Dr Gummer explains.
Play a few board games, spend a few hours at the park or do some baking – aim for activities
that will encourage you both to communicate constantly and really make the most of your time together.
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