Mother and Baby

Get Your Toddler Out Of Your Room And Sleeping In Her Own Bed

Still finding your toddler prefers to sleep in your bed to his? It’s time for him to have his own room and bed – so you can reclaim your sleep, personal space and sex life!

Your toddler has been sleeping with you and your partner for a couple of years. Or just likes to venture into your room in the middle of the night. You know it isn’t an ideal scenario and it is really time for her to stay the night in her own bed.

It can be a tricky habit to break, but there are lots of methods you can try to make this as easy as possible.

Even though it isn’t the same risk as letting your baby sleep in your bed, co-sleeping isn’t as safe as her sleeping on his own and at some point the transition does need to happen to establish a routine.

The transition

You may find your toddler needs an interim step of you sleeping on a mattress in his room while he adapts to his bed.

‘Also, spending some time each day playing with him sitting on his bed, to try and encourage a positive association with the bed,’ says Child Sleep Work’s founder, Maryanne Taylor.

It’s a good idea to introduce your toddler’s bed with a party.

Make sure that the bedroom remains a safe haven and not a place that your toddler is sent if she’s naughty.

‘Have some games, snacks and maybe even balloons,’ Maryanne advises. ‘Build it up to be an exciting new adventure.’

Make sure that the bedroom remains a safe haven and not a place that your toddler is sent if she’s naughty.

Setting boundaries

Toddlers can easily jump in and out of bed, which you don’t want to let happen as your toddler may think it’s a game.

‘Some parents find that closing a door is too drastic,’ says Maryanne.  ‘Using a gate is a good idea as the toddler can see out. It still stops your toddler wandering around at night and hurting himself.’

Quality time

Your child is more likely to play up at bedtime if she feels she hasn’t had some one-on-one quality time, so ensure that you read a bedtime story or play a calm game together before you put your toddler to bed.

Treats and rewards

Incentive schemes often work well, especially for older toddlers.

‘Keep a sticker chart and add a new one when your child has stayed in her bed all night,’ Maryanne says.  ‘If your toddler is younger, you can simply put a sticker on his pajamas in the morning when you wake him up to show her just how good she’s been.’

 A magic light

A low-wattage light that comes on at a certain time is often useful and signals when your toddler is allowed to get up.

‘This can be called a “magic” or a “morning” light,’ explains Maryanne. ‘If your toddler comes to you before it turns on in the morning, just say, “your magic light isn’t on yet so you should still be asleep.’

The odd white lie does work a treat in parenting…


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