After so many promises to your new-mum friend that the pain and discomfort would be worth it, you can’t help but notice that the overwhelming pressure to be excited and happy after having a baby might be having a great impact on her mental health.
Postnatal depression affects more than 1 in 10 women, and whilst seeing your friend in any sort of pain is terrible, watching them go through this whilst they’re meant to be experiencing one of the most amazing times of their lives is heartbreaking.
Nurse Dulcie Collins experienced postnatal depression with her second child and felt that many of her friends "didn’t mention it, or felt uncomfortable to talk about it", but often wishes they would as an acknowledgment that it is real.
If you’re trying your best not to be that person and want to give all the encouragement you can, here are a few ways to help support your new-mummy friend.
1) Become familiar with the symptoms
Whilst you may not be able to empathise and know exactly what to say, take some time to be familiar with the symptoms
so you can be prepared with how to react and support.
With her personal experience, Dulcie Collins said she had negative language in relation to the baby, such as: "I think she hates me" when referencing to her daughter.
Dulcie also said that other signs to spot are stillness in the face, the inability to engage with anyone, or the opposite, being overly outgoing and more than eager to please.
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