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The Truth About What Happens Down Below After Birth

Everything you've wanted to know about your post-baby vagina, but didn't want to ask

Ok, so it's no typical coffee shop chat (well, unless you're a TMI mum who's likely to have told everyone about your third degree tear before you've ordered your latte), but the goings on 'down there' after you've had a baby are generally not talked about. That's why we've given you all the facts below.

Your amazing vagina (yes, really!)

'Your vagina is a very stretchy organ – it can expand to 10cm to let your baby through - and then goes back,' says Dr Roger Marwood, a spokesperson for Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists and founder of 'However, it's surrounded by a group of muscles called the pelvic floor muscles and these are affected by both pregnancy and childbirth.

The extent to which they're affected depends on several factors including the size of your baby, how long you spent pushing, whether you had an assisted delivery using forceps, and even your genes.' Doing pelvic floor exercises can help tighten them, which effectively tightens the vagina wall, too.


Stitched up

Around 50% of first time mums will need stitches after having a baby. Don't worry – it's not as bad as it sounds. 'If you haven't had an epidural, you'll be given a local anaesthetic while either the midwife or obstetrician sews up the tear or episiotomy cut,' says Dr Marwood. 'The thread is soft and dissolvable so you won't have to have the stitches removed. However, you may be able to feel them, and the area will feel tender and swollen or bruised, although this is the case even without stitches if you've had a vaginal birth. You'll be given painkillers after you've had your baby to help with any pain you're feeling.'

Doing pelvic floor exercises can help tighten your vagina

If you're finding it difficult to pee after birth because of stitches, you can try pouring warm water over your vulva or weeing in the bath as it dilutes the acid in your urine.


Holding on

'Just over 40% of women will experience incontinence after having a baby,' says Dr Marwood. 'Often it's only a tiny amount that you leak, usually when you laugh, cough or sneeze, and can disappear a few weeks after birth so is usually nothing to worry about.'

Doing your pelvic floor exercises are, once again, the key to preventing incontinence. 'Imagine you're pulling your vagina up and in, as if you're trying to stop yourself weeing and squeeze,' says Dr Marwood. 'And try to remember to make the exercises part of your daily routine – like showering or putting on make-up. You can do them while you're sat breastfeeding or waiting at traffic lights.'


Your prolapse recovery plan

Sometimes the pressure of pushing and giving birth can cause a prolapse. This means that one or more of your pelvic organs (such as the womb, bladder or rectum) can drop down or prolapse into your vagina. 'It's not that common – it happens to about 10% of women – and you'll probably notice a difference,' says Dr Marwood. 'It can feel heavy and you may feel and even see a bulge in your vagina. If the prolapse is pushing on your bladder, you may need the toilet more frequently.'

The good news is that prolapse can improve over time

The good news is that prolapse can improve over time and depending on how serious it is, may not even need specific treatment. 'If you still don't feel quite right at your six week check-up, talk to your GP and she can refer you to a pelvic physiotherapist who can teach you how to do pelvic floor exercises or prescribe a machine that can help tighten the muscles. If you're overweight she may suggest you lose a bit as that can affect how quickly you recover from a prolapse,' says Dr Marwood.


The truth about post-baby sex

When you're surviving on four hours sleep a day, the prospect of doing anything except sending up zzzz when you're in bed can seem totally alien. However, if and when you're ready for sex, it's worth bearing in mind that it probably will feel different.

'Once your baby is born, oestrogen levels drop so that your body can start producing breast milk,' says Dr Marwood. 'This can cause vaginal dryness and tenderness, and a lower libido. What's interesting is that the speed that your sex life returns is more affected by your mode of feeding than your mode of birth. The longer you breastfeed, the lower your oestrogen levels, and so the lower your libido. So while breastfeeding is amazing for your baby, it can have an impact on your sex life.'

Just because all your mum friends are 'allegedly' back to five times a week (yeah, right), doesn't mean you have to follow suit.

Talk to your partner about taking it slowly when you have sex for the first time after birth and think about using some lubricant if you're worried about dryness. But the most important thing is not to rush.

Just because you've had the all clear from the doctor and all your mum friends in your NCT group are 'allegedly' back to five times a week (yeah, right), doesn't mean you have to follow suit.


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