I often get asked if I think I’m a good dad. Answering “yes” sometimes feels a bit awkward as I’m not totally sure. Considering I’m winging it for approximately 92% of the time, I think I’m doing alright, but to say confidently I’m a good dad doesn’t come easily to me. Do I tick all of the conventional parenting? Kind of. But I think it’s the more unconventional things that really make me a good dad.
I’ll do anything for my baby AND his mum
It’s a given right? You have a kid and they become your world…but it can fade. I think parenting can lose its proverbial shine and for me continuing to be a dad and husband above all else is of huge importance. I’m not saying you need to completely drop everything else in your life, but I think one of my strengths as a dad is that I take my responsibility seriously and not only that, now the baby isn’t a baby, I haven’t taken a step back.
As a parent, I absolutely love spending time with my boy. He’s my best friend and we have such a laugh together. Admittedly, the conversation doesn’t flow too well when his vocabulary consists of six words (“dogga”, “tractor”, “car”, “Dada”, “cheers” and “poo-poo” – absolutely not me who taught him the last two) but we don’t stop talking. I think genuinely enjoying my boy’s company makes me a good dad.
1) I love spending time with my boy
Having the minerals to tell off a one and a bit year old is y more difficult than you think. Our boy is by no means a tear-away, but he’s a mischievous little cretin at times and I have to keep a straight face and tell him off. I couldn’t think of anything worse than having to do this, but it’s part of my job as a dad. He literally wells up when he knows he’s upset me which nearly breaks my resolve…the thing is, I know it’s for the best.
2) I try to guide and teach
Traditional mother/father roles are still prevalent in some households, but not ours. Yes, I work (more) but that doesn’t mean I don’t pull my weight. Early morning and late night shifts are part and parcel of being a good parent and I’m not one to shirk my share of the shifts. Not only that, if my wife says she’s going out, I’m happy to stay in. I think being a good dad means being a good team player and sometimes you need to take one for the team.
3) I’m happy to take one for the team
Distractions come in all shapes and forms and when you’re a sleep-deprived mess and they seem to present themselves more frequently. Some people immerse themselves in social media, some in work and some in other vices, but I think regardless of your distractions in life, making time for your child/children and family is one of the key factors that makes you a good dad. We are all guilty of wasting time and looking back on life, when I’m old, I don’t want to be one of those people who says that they regret not being more present…
4) Being present
There’s no exact formula for being the world’s best dad I don’t think; it’s more about making the time to be a dad and making sure you are making the most of it!
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