You’ve picked your birthing partner, now it’s time to pick their brains. A bit of pre-labour quizzing will help the birth go better – for both of you
Whether it’s with a well-timed back massage, handy energy snacks or simply some comforting reassurance, your birth partner can be a massive support when it comes to bringing your baby into the world.
It could pay off dividends. Research shows a well-supported mum-to-be often approaches labour better and may even have a shorter birth.
You may want your partner or think a friend or relative will be your best support on the day. Whoever you choose, make sure you ask the important questions before you get to the labour ward.
1. Will you come to antenatal classes with me?
You’ve booked in for classes,
but your partner is dragging their heels. Could it be the idea of a scary birth video or having to practice labour breathing with a load of strangers?
In order for your birth partner to be your best support, they'll needs to go through the same learning process as you. Reassure them it really won’t be that heavy. But, if they still won’t come round to the idea, it may be worth drafting a new recruit as your birthing buddy.
2. Can you help me write my birth plan?
Reading up on the different labour and pain-relief options,
you can start thinking about how you’d like to have your baby. Writing your plan with your birth partner helps start chats about what’s going to happen on the day. Knowing what they are and are not comfortable with can help you feel confident about what to expect
when you are in labour.
3. Should we have another person present during labour?
It’s important to talk to your birth partner about having a third person present, such as your mum or doula.
It can help to have someone to support you while your birth partner has a break. You will be able to stay focused, rather than worrying that the baby might appear when you are on your own.
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