1) You might not realise you’re in labour
You may be so accustomed to getting Braxton Hicks
contractions during your pregnancy that when the real ones kick it, it could be hard to tell the difference.
Generally, labour contractions are much more painful, but there have been instances where labour has started and the mother was completely oblivious.
In addition, your waters may break and you might not even realise it.
With so much amniotic fluid and discharge coming out towards the end of your pregnancy, if waters break and start coming out a little at a time, you may be caught unawares.
4) Contractions can last a long time without anything actually happening
Just because you’re having contractions and are officially in labour, that doesn’t necessarily mean that you’ll be giving birth to your little bundle of joy any time soon.
Contractions could last a very long time with nothing significant happening at all. While the doctors wait for you to get to optimal dilation, the contractions just keep on coming, and it could take a while to make progress.
A lot of women have reported having two- and even three-day labours, but if we take into consideration that one woman in Poland was in labour for 75 days
, a 48-hour labour doesn’t sound so bad, after all.
5) Waters break, and just keep on coming out till the baby is born
When waters break
in movies, it just looks like a cup of water has been spilled to the floor in between the expectant mother’s legs.
In reality, there is usually so much water in there, that when your waters break, it could just keep coming out non-stop until the baby is out. “I thought it was just one gush of water and then it’s done,” one mum tells us.
“I didn't realise I'd need quite so many pads before I'd even given birth,” says another. “The night my waters broke, I went through a whole pack of thick pads with my waters leaking everywhere. I also went through so many leggings, towels, pads and undies. I just couldn’t get it under control.”
And this one takes the cake: “I rolled up one of those large incontinence bedsheets and shoved it in my knickers, and still water somehow managed to get into my shoes while I was walking to the ER.”
6) How uncomfortable an IV during labour is
You’ll have to have an IV fitted as soon as you get to the hospital so they can administer meds in a flash if necessary.
You’re advised to move around while in labour; apparently it could hurt less this way, and encourage the labour to go by faster. Sitting on a birthing ball
, pacing the floor, and changing your position often is recommended.
But doing all these things with an IV hanging out of your arm can be painful and uncomfortable to say the least. And don’t get us started on if you need to use the loo.
7) You might have to have a urinary catheter installed and it’s ghastly
A full bladder can hinder the progress of labour, and if you’re in no position to be going to the loo alone, which is very possible in the final stages, the midwife will install a urinary catheter
through your urethra—very often without much warning.
“It feels like you’ve got cystitis all of a sudden,” one mother said. “Getting the catheter fitted and removed was one of the most horrible parts of the whole labour. fter I’d had the baby and they took the catheter out, for some reason they had to put it back in again. Worst thing ever!”
These catheters are most often inserted if you’ve had an epidural so that you don’t have any accidents since you can’t feel anything—but that also means that you won’t be able to feel it going in, which is a good thing.
8) Liquid meds are shoved up your bum, and, gross
As you may have started to guess with the IV and the catheter, labour isn’t all about stuff coming out of you; it’s a lot about things getting shoved in, too! When you first arrive at the hospital, they like to give you a nice cleansing colon enema
This consists of two massive syringes full of liquid being squirted into your anus, while you’re propped onto your side, no doubt cringing in disgust.
It doesn’t exactly hurt per se, but it feels… well, gross for lack of a better word. You’re supposed to try to wait 5-10 minutes before emptying your bowels but this feels more impossible than the idea of a baby the size of a watermelon coming out of your vagina.
Ibuprofen, Voltarol, and other meds are also often given up the back passage and the feeling could take you by surprise.
Just like labour and birth in general can be unpredictable, contractions sometimes have a mind of their own. “The whole ‘3 in 10’ rule (three contractions in 10 minutes) doesn’t apply to some people,” says one mum.
9) Contractions aren’t always predictable
“I had contractions with no real pattern for two days and then, all of a sudden, they came every two minutes with no warning! Got to the hospital at 7cm dilated. If I’d have known I didn’t have to wait for the ‘3 in 10’ I would have gone in a lot sooner and likely had a nicer experience!”
On the other hand, just because contractions are regular, don’t assume that you’ll have appropriately dilated.
Another mum tells us, “No one ever mentioned, not even once, that I can have a 24h labour with contractions every 3 minutes lasting 1.5 minutes each from beginning to end, while being only 1cm dilated.”
10) The pain isn’t just in your tummy; you can feel it in your legs, back, and, well, everywhere
We all know that labour hurts
, but a surprising number of new mothers were quite shocked to find out that the pain of contractions is not only felt in the abdominal region.
“The pain in my back was worse than the pain I was feeling in the belly,” one mother says. “Even in between contractions, I couldn’t get comfortable anywhere, and it felt like my back was going to break.”
In addition to the back and belly, it’s also possible to feel contraction pain in your legs, and hips, and pretty much everywhere else. Very temperamental, these contractions.
14) Induction could make labour pains worse
It’s true. Being induced
can take labour pains up a notch or two. In response to having your waters manually broken, or being administered prostaglandins (the hormone you’re given to kickstart labour), labour pains tend to come on hard and strong. “No one told me that induction and the hormone drip would make my pains so much worse,” we’re told by one mum. “My third birth was fully natural and was a breeze in comparison.”
15) It’s highly likely you will vomit from the pain
during pregnancy is one of the most common symptoms and has almost become synonymous with the first trimester.
However, have you ever been in so much pain that you’ve thrown up? Well, labour’s your chance. It might be nice for someone to have mentioned that you may chuck your guts up from the pain of contractions, or the meds that you’ve been given, or even the exhaustion.
Vomiting is the body’s natural way to tell you that the body is currently in overdrive, but don’t worry; it’s completely normal and very common.
16) Epidurals wear off quickly, and sometimes they only work on one side
There’s nothing quite like the relief of an epidural
after relentless contractions, and the best part is that it takes effect almost immediately. Unfortunately, though, it wears off just as quick as it starts to work.
One second it’s working, and the next—BAM—you’re wholly experiencing the full joys of contractions, until you get another dose.
Most hospitals nowadays give you your own epidural drip button so that as soon as you start to “feel” again, you can handle your own pain relief.
Did you know, though, that sometimes the epidural can fail on one side?
This means that while you’re numb on the one side, you can feel everything on the other, and for some reason, it feels like you are experiencing twice as much pain, but just on one side.
20) Despite your best efforts, it might not all go according to plan
The rules in all the pregnancy and birth books stress the importance of having a birth plan
, and like good little mothers-to-be, that’s exactly what we did.
Our trusty little detailed birth plan that we’ve learned inside out, and have made sure that our partner, midwife, and doctor know by heart too, has not left our side from at least 6 months onwards.
But no one warns you that despite your best efforts, sometimes it just won’t go according to plan. At any slight complication, the birth plan tends to go out the window, the priority always being getting the baby out safely.
The best approach is to have a birth plan but not have your heart set on any one course. Be flexible, and expect that the route to getting your baby out and in your arms might not be the one you would have preferred.
21) It might not be awful at all
A number of women—especially those who have had really heavy and painful periods all their lives and are used to abdominal pain of that type—have reported labour not being at all as bad as they had expected.
“Something I wasn't told by anyone other than the wonderful hypnobirthing
group I was part of,” says one member of the Mother & Baby Facebook #mumtribe
, “is that it's going to be okay. Everyone kept telling me horror stories and how awful it was, and for me that couldn't have been further from the truth. That’s why it’s nice having a doula
. They’re there for the mother, constantly encouraging her with physical and emotional support, and making her feel that everything is A-OK.”