Mother and Baby

Wait, do orgasmic births actually exist?

Section: Labour & Birth

When someone mentions the words 'labour' or 'birth' to you, what immediately comes to mind?

Perhaps, the amount of excruciating pain you're going to be experiencing to bring your little one into the world? 

Well, some mamas tell it differently. When they look back on their birth experiences, they are reminded of their birth being pleasurable, and even, orgasmic. 

What is an orgasmic birth?

An orgasmic birth is how women explain the delivery of their child to be a pleasurable experience rather than filled with enormous amounts of pain.

A survey in the journal, Sexologies, found that midwives witnessed orgasms in 0.3 per cent of births.

Barry Komisaruk, a professor of psychology at Rutgers University in New Jersey who studies orgasm said: "The intense stimulation of the vaginal canal in childbirth may work to block pain — whether that stimulation is felt as sexual or not." 

Pascali-Bonaro produced Orgasmic Birth: The Best-Kept Secret, a documentary in 2009, where she visited births as a doula and was convinced that orgasmic births should be heard about more.

She said: “There was joy, there was ecstasy, there was bliss, there was relief."

A French study revealed that more than 85 percent of midwives said it was possible to have a sexually pleasurable birth and 69 percent said they’d witnessed at least one. 

Why does it happen? 

The love hormone, oxytocin, plays a huge part in birth, as it is released during childbirth to induce the labour.

The hormone also spurs on the contractions

Endorphins, adrenaline, and noradrenaline are also released when labour pains kick in, which gives them the strength for what's to come and some natural pain relief, which could also provide some pleasure to the woman. 

One mum commented on #mumtribe: "A what now? You mean some people actually enjoy pushing an enormous human out of their body??????" but actually, some do. 

Barbara K. Rothman, author of In Labor, says labour is similar to having an orgasm, as she said: "Birth has much in common with orgasm; the hormone oxytocin is released, there are uterine contractions, nipple erection, and under the best circumstances for birth, an orgasmic feeling."

What does it feel like?

Orgasmic births are also known as ecstatic births where they feel waves of pleasure while the baby is coming. 

A birthgasm occurs when the baby's head is applying so much pressure to the woman's vagina that it actually feels good and pleasurable.

It has been said that the baby's head could even hit the G-spot too... 

Women have described it to feel like the extreme pleasure of an orgasm that comes in waves. These feelings of pleasure overcome the feelings of pain and discomfort

Can it affect my baby?

If you're one of the lucky mamas who have an orgasm during labour, there is no need to worry about the effects it may have on your baby as it won't harm them in any way. 

It may not be sexually pleasurable...

Mums have described their birth experiences as pleasurable and enjoyable, but not necessarily 'orgasmic'. 

We asked mums on #mumtribe if they have any orgasmic birth stories, and one mum said: "I wouldn't say mine was orgasmic but it certainly wasn't as bad as I had built it up to be & didn't really mind it."

Another commented: "I'd read about orgasmic births!! I'm sure they happen, but not for me.

"I had my second at home when I realised after my first was born that my usually low pain tolerance was actually pretty high when shoving something out my nether regions.

"Stubbing my toe on the other hand - you might think I was in labour! I think that pregnancy pilates really helped me in terms of learning how to breathe properly and tuning into that as a way of focus and mind over matter. " 

Can I make my labour orgasmic?

Now that it's assumed that labour and giving birth is the most painful thing your body will go through, it seems impossible that anyone could feel a bit of pleasure during the process, but there are some things you can try.

If every woman could make their birth satisfying, (not necessarily sexually), then they would. The following could help:

  • Dimmed lights
  • Music
  • Aromatherapy
  • Acupuncture
  • Massage

People also suggest bringing your partner into it, as they are the one person that knows how to please you.

If you're curious about turning around the delivery experience, many recommend deep kissing and stroking each other. 

Have you had an orgasmic or pleasurable birth? Let us know on Facebook or Twitter!

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While training as a journalist at the University of Gloucestershire for 3 years, she was nominated for the Best Feature Category at the Midlands Student’s Media Awards this year, and Head of News and Social Media for the university’s radio station, Tone Radio. Ellie has been published by the likes of Heatworld, Heart, Gloucestershire Live, and ITV West Country. 

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