It’s easy to give into fear and paranoia when you start bleeding in pregnancy. But it’s best to stay in control while you wait to find out what’s causing it.
Bleeding in pregnancy can have you picturing worst-case scenarios. Often it doesn’t mean anything is seriously wrong, but waiting to find out what’s going on can be the toughest part.
Stepping back and going through the process as logically as possible will help keep you calm.
First things first
Before you start panicking, go to your doctor or midwife, who can look into why you’re bleeding and give you a quick check. ‘You need reassurance,’ says Susie Gower, pre-birth specialist. ‘The only way to get that is to go to the doctor and get a scan.’
Call your midwife team or go straight to A&E.
Keep an open mind
Keep an open mind rather than focusing on your fears. It’s important to keep an even keel so you don’t create unnecessary, scary scenarios in your head.
‘Try breathing exercises – simple but very effective,’ says Susie. ‘Breathe in for a count of four, and release it for a count of six, then exhale once more for a count of eight.’
The idea is that this will let you break away from the nagging thoughts, plus it will let you take control so you can calm down.
Remain calm and rest
You may have to wait for an appointment, so engross yourself in a magazine, a DVD box set or some other distraction.
Try to continue the simple breathing exercises.
Also try closing your eyes and picturing your favourite colour filling you up from your toes to your head. ‘Focusing on this will help block out any negative thoughts,’ says Susie.
Talk about it
Confide in people you trust whether that’s your bloke, mum or best friend. Talking to your loved ones reminds you you’re not alone, that there are people who love you and want to be there for you.
Hopefully they’ll tell you to stay calm, give you a cuddle and look after you until the doctor or midwife can see you.
If you’re finding it tricky to confide in someone close, call a helpline such as NHS Direct 08454647 or Tommy’s PregnancyLine 0800 0147 800.