It may take you months to feel ready to try to conceive (TTC) again after going through the trauma of a miscarriage. Or for you, getting back to it straightaway might be what feels most right. Whatever you’re path, make sure you’re mentally and physically ready.
Sex after miscarriage
Following a miscarriage, the lining of the womb may be quite tender and there is a chance of infection, so it’s best to wait a few days and give yourself time to heal before having sex again.
However, you don’t need to wait too long. ‘There’s no harm in trying again following your first normal period,’ says Dr Geetha Venkat, director of Harley Street Fertility Clinic. ‘Once you have begun ovulating, your body is back to normal physically and it is safe to resume trying.’
It’s hard to know when exactly to expect your next period, but your menstrual cycle should return to normal four to six weeks after a miscarriage.
Emotional signs you’re ready to TTC again
While your body might be ready to start trying for a baby again, you might not feel ready to take that step emotionally.
Be kind to yourself, look out for signs you may be feeling more positive about trying.
‘A good indication is when you can start looking at baby clothes again or buy a birth congratulations card and there are no “what if” feelings,’ says fertility specialist and therapist Susie Gower. ‘It shows you’re feeling more positive about miscarrying.’
Other signs to look out for are not having to think twice before meeting pregnant friends or friends with children. Or you might simply wake up one day and feel ready.
Be kind to yourself, look out for signs you may be feeling more positive about trying
Taking time out after a miscarriage
There’s a chance you may feel you don’t want to put yourself through the risk of a pregnancy again. While this is likely to be temporary, don’t put pressure on yourself.
Time is the best healer so shift your focus on other things that you love, and see how you feel a little bit further down the line. You know your body is capable of being pregnant, so there’s no rush.