Yes, we know friends and family only want to take an interest in your life, but there are times when the constant questions about when baby number two is coming along can be frustrating, embarrassing and really quite nosey. Here’s how to throw them off for a while…
1. I’ve only just squeezed into my Topshop skinnies – I want to enjoy it.
You’ve worked hard to get back to your pre-baby size and you can’t face having to dig out your maternity jeans just yet.
2. When we can afford it
You don’t need to go into all the financial details, but with the economic problems affecting most people over the last five years, the person asking you should understand that babies are expensive and it makes sense to wait.
3. I’m sorry, I didn’t realise our sex life was dinner party conversation
Because that’s what it boils down to – when and how successfully are you having sex, and let’s be honest, nobody wants to know about that.
4. I’m stopping at one child
If you only want one baby, then that’s your choice. You’ll probably get a ‘oh, I’m sure you’ll change your mind’ comment, so just ignore them.
5. That’s none of your business
Short, blunt and to the point. Probably best said to close friends and relatives who aren’t easily offended.
6. When my vagina has recovered
Guaranteed to make the room go silent and people hastily change the subject. If they’d been there when you had those stitches, they’d understand why you’re waiting…
7. When my current baby is out of nappies…
…There’s only so much sh*t I can take at a time. Fair enough…
8. I’m not ready to share my attention with another person
Yes, there will come a time when you can juggle a toddler, your work or home life and all your other interests. But right now, focusing your love and attention on one little person is taking enough of your energy.
9. I want to get to the next level at work
A second child not only means more expense, it’s also another career break, so waiting until you’ve got a promotion at work and feel established in that role makes sense.
10. Um, don’t know…
If in doubt, just shrug your shoulders and start talking about the weather.
How long did you wait before having a second baby? Let us know in the comment box below.