Once you decide you're ready for your longed-for baby, it's as if you're racing against time to conceive, and nothing else matters. Well, in reality, nothing else matter. But with all that pressure to conceive on your shoulders (and let's face it, it's mainly you who will be worrying), it's hard to relax. And stress is not conducive to baby making. So here's what to do
1. Talk to someone
Lots of us don't like to tell people when we're trying but having a friend to offload everything onto – other than your partner – is pretty essential. You would do it if you had any other worry, so why not now?
2. Try a relaxation technique
This could be anything that makes you feel more chilled out, from a pre-bed hypnosis CD to simple deep breathing or massage. If you're not into alternative therapies, then don't force yourself. But don't knock it until you've tried it...
3. Start being more selfish in general
And enjoy it. We all take on too much sometimes, and right now you've got other priorities. So if someone asks you to help with their housewarming, or take on some extra work, or go to an event you're not really interested in, don't say yes to be nice.
Simply say no, and feel good that you've just gained some extra time to do something for yourself instead.
4. Get yourself a bedtime routine
They're not just for babies – adults need wind-down time too. Plus, you need a good amount of sleep to stay healthy and energised every day, particularly as stress can be draining.
Declutter your bedroom and make it an oasis of calm. Make it look and smell nice, and ditch anything stimulating before you're about to go to sleep, like The Returned box set or the latest celebrity gossip on your iPad. Have a warm bath, drink some warm milk and settle down into a warm duvet. Sex is good, but not the 50 Shades variety, obvs.
5. Be really good to your body
It's tempting to speed-eat donuts and take up a five-a-day caffeine habit when we're stressed but it won't be doing you any favours. You'll feel worse, lack energy and feeling positive will be a whole lot harder.
Get your proper five a day (more if you can), stock up on pre-natal vitamins and check your iron and vitamin D levels. You're prepping your body for an important job, so exercise too. Just a half hour walk in the fresh air will boost your feel-good hormones, work wonders for your stress levels, and will make sure you stay physically healthy too.