The Kama Sutra won’t guarantee a pregnancy, but if you’re trying to conceive, there’s no harm in making these sex positions your new favourites…
What are the best sex positions to help get pregnant?
According to the experts, different sex positions doesn’t make much difference when you’re trying to conceive. Still, there are always theories and ideas behind why certain sex positions could be best for your baby making – they generally involve the idea of encouraging gravity to help his sperm along.
1. Your legs on his shouldersThis sex position means your pelvis is tipped back, which gives his sperm a helping hand from gravity in trying to reach your egg.
2. MissionaryAlthough it might not be the most exciting position to get intimate with your partner, it gives deep penetration close to the cervix, so your partner's swimmers have a little extra help in their swim for an egg.
3. You on topThis is great when you want to feel in control, but think about switching before he ejaculates. Theory goes that this stops gravity doing its best to help his sperm along its way.
4. From behindAgain, this position allows for deep penetration. As an added benefit, some theories say this is the best sex position to use when trying to conceive if you have a tipped uterus. Once you’re finished, roll over and lie on your back with your hips elevated to give his sperm time to travel.
Do I need to orgasm when trying to conceive?
Obviously it's very important that your partner orgasms in trying to conceive sex, but there is no evidence that female orgasms make any difference here. Gentle contractions in your womb can help to move the sperm along, up into the cervix, but these happen with or without you having an orgasm.
Are there sex positions that mean I'm more likely to have a boy or a girl?
There's no research that says different positions mean you're more likely to conceive a boy or a girl, but there are plenty of old wive's tales that suggest differently. One claims that to conceive a girl, you should have plenty of sex with you on top. Another claims if you have plenty of sex with him on top, you are more likely to conceive a boy.
Should I stay lying down after sex to boost my chances of conceiving?
With this one, it can't hurt to try it. Gravity means that if you stay lying down after sex, the semen is more likely to stay in your vagina and around your cervix than if you get up straight away. If you've been trying for a few months with no success, try to stay lying down for ten minutes after sex, with your hips raised on a pillow to encourage the sperm to travel down to your egg. That said, do not follow this advice if your GP or health professional has ever advised you to empty your bladder immediately after sex.
It is worth remembering that with or without lying on your back after sex, or cycling your legs in the air, or doing handstands, millions of sperm are released in every male orgasm, so even if you get up straight away, they should already be on their way.
When is the best time to have sex if I'm trying to conceive?
This is a very important one and all depends on when you are ovulating - if you're not sure, use our ovulation calculator to find out exactly when this window is. For most women, having sex around 14 days after your last period is when you are at your most fertile. Although there is a window of important days, try and have sex regularly throughout the month, as this is thought to be more effective than just having sex for one week a month.
How much sex do I really need to have when trying to get pregnant?
On average, it takes couples around 12 months to get pregnant if they have regular sex, don’t use contraception and don’t have any underlying fertility issues so don’t worry if you've been trying for a couple of months and haven't had a positive pregnancy test.
When it comes to how often, as we mentioned above, the more you have sex throughout the month, the more likely you are to hit your baby making window. Find out more about baby making sex here.